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Dads are as important too

Dads are as important too

Many times I hear children chat in groups speak more of this mom, especially those who are within the age range of 10-20.
Mothers have long been recognized as critical to children and their success later in life and have been long encouraged to be an active part of their children`s lives. In fact, society continues to seemingly regard mothers as the only important parent in a child`s life. 
Most famously and recently was when Matt Lauer asked GM`s CEO, Mary Barra, about how she can balance being a mother and having a career. The uproar surrounding the question was spawned by the fact that male CEO`s, or males with a career are not asked how they can be good fathers while maintaining their careers.
I have a comment on popular society failing to recognize the importance of both fathers and mothers in raising a child. In fact, an article in Atlantic on stay-at-home father points out, “if anything, the last 15 years has seen men collectively stop taking on more responsibility as caregivers, no take on more of it”
Our fathers don`t have to be “stay-at-home dads”  to prove their responsibilities. It is time we as a society formally recognize the importance of fathers and father figures, not just mothers in raising children.

Dads are as important too

 “Is there any real evidence that dads really have a unique importance in the lives of their children?” Some will ask because our culture seems to place little value on the role of fathers. I see evidence of this everywhere, from pop culture to media government policy.
My own experience and belief system tell me that fatherhood is important, but I`d like to explain exactly why this is the case
Dr. David Popenoe, Professor of sociology at Rutgers University and Co-Director of the national marriage project, has provided us with a good summary and overview of the subject.
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Dads are as important too


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Fathers are far more than just “second adults” in the home.

Involved fathers _ especially biological fathers _ bring positive benefits to their children that no other person is likely to bring. They provide protection and economic support and are male role models.
They have a parenting style that is significantly different from that of a mother and that difference is important in healthy child development.
David Popenoe`s, LIFE WITHOUT A FATHER, (Newyork: The free press, 1996) page 163
According to child psychiatrist Kyle Pruett, a father`s more active playstyle and comparatively slower response to a toddler or infant experiencing frustration serve to promote problem-solving competencies and independence in a child
Kyle D. Pruett, (Father need: the free press,) page. 41-42
I believe that one of the most important and vital aspects of a dad`s contribution to the lives of his kids lies precisely in what Dr. Popenoe calls his “Significantly different parenting style” 

Men and women are different. And as a result mothers and fathers parent their child differently.

Dads for instance, love their children “more dangerously.” That`s because they play “rougher” and are more likely to encourage risk-taking, They provide kids with a broader diversity of social experiences, They also introduce them to a wider variety of methods of dealing with life, They tend to stress rules, justice, fairness, and duty in the discipline. 
In this way, they teach children the objectivity and consequences of right and wrong. They give kids insight into the world of men. They prepare them for the challenges of life and demonstrate by example the meaning of respect between the sexes. In a common connection with this last point, research indicates that a married father is subsequently less likely to abuse his wife or children than men in any other category.

Fathers encourage competition, engendering independence. Mothers promote equity, creating a sense of security. Dads emphasize conceptual communication, which helps kids expand their vocabulary and intellectual capacities. Mom`s major in sympathy, care and help thus demonstrating the importance of relationships. Dads tend to see their children in relation to the rest of the world. Moms tend to see the rest of the world in relation to their children.

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